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gah.
my sister's dog died.
lymphoma.
it was a schnauzer who barked ALL the time. i HATED that dog. it had all kinds of aggression problems too.
but my sister will be totally torn up about it.
so now i have the dilemma....is it unethical for me to send a card given how much i hated that dog?

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[mirage897.livejournal.com]

I personally don't see how it's unethical for you to support your sister in her time of need.

Maybe one way you can look at it is trying to comparativley value people's pain. For example, it makes no sense of course to question why one person who looses their job is devastated and suicidal while another person loses his wife or child and does not spiral into severe depression. The two are not comparable.


From your perspective, that annoying dog having died is not painful at all. For your sister, it's devastating.

I hope this makes some sense hun. You've been so helpful to me in sorting out your thoughts I welcome the oppourtuntiy to reciprocate.

[lucifermourning.livejournal.com]

you send a card because you are sorry your sister is suffering and you want her to know you are thinking about her and hoping she feels better soon. as far as i'm concerned, a sympathy card, even for a human, has not much to do with the deceased but rather with those suffering the loss. all the more so when the deceased is an animal.
the only unethical thing would be to write about how much you'll miss the dog. i would see it as far more unethical to not reach out to your sister when she is suffering, simply because you are not suffering too.

[chestervhe.livejournal.com]

Use your mad Ventrue skillz!

"I'm sorry for your loss" technically not a lie. You didn't like the dog, but you're sad for your sister.

"I know how much he meant to you", et cetera

Stuff like that.

[keisolo.livejournal.com]

Card is for the person, not the dog.
If that makes sense?