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[2eclipse]

gah.
my sister's dog died.
lymphoma.
it was a schnauzer who barked ALL the time. i HATED that dog. it had all kinds of aggression problems too.
but my sister will be totally torn up about it.
so now i have the dilemma....is it unethical for me to send a card given how much i hated that dog?

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[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

i thought of that too. that's part of why i feel torn. because aren't we responsible for the misconceptions that we allow for as well as the things we actually say? if this were a different kind of issue and i allowed her to assume that i gave two shits about that dog she could be very hurt/pissed when she found out otherwise. in this particular situation she is not likely to ever know, but i think it is worth considering.

[lucifermourning.livejournal.com]

wouldn't she be more hurt if she thought you didn't care about what was going through?

and 'i'm sorry for your loss, i know you must be feeling terrible, i hope you feel better', etc. doesn't say anything about you liking her dog, it says you're sorry she's suffering.

[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

i think you are right about that.
and it is probably what i will do. i think it is just one of those situations where you can't feel entirely good about the situation.