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[2eclipse]

gah.
my sister's dog died.
lymphoma.
it was a schnauzer who barked ALL the time. i HATED that dog. it had all kinds of aggression problems too.
but my sister will be totally torn up about it.
so now i have the dilemma....is it unethical for me to send a card given how much i hated that dog?

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[keisolo.livejournal.com]

Card is for the person, not the dog.
If that makes sense?

[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

oh yes, but how honest am i being to my sister if i send her a card expressing regret i don't feel about the dog? wording on these things is tricky...and what if she reads into the card something i don't mean? i don't actually remember what i decided to do about this. i think i sent her an e-mail so i could choose the words.

[keisolo.livejournal.com]

Amusingly enough, had this conversation occured when this entry was written, that's about what I would have advised, given your issues and thoughts on it.
I've always approached such things from the perspective of the fact that I AM sorry for the loss, due to how it will affect the individual in question, rather than whether or not I, personally, will miss the pet or person being mourned.