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[2eclipse]

the second surgery went well. the debrided and clensed ralph's wounds and closed up his ankle...which of course means that they will have to open it up again when they go in to fix it...but it does decrease risk of infection. ross's grandparents came down yesterday to visit with him and so that we could go out to north dakota so ross could be in his friend ryan's wedding. the wedding was outdoors and everything was very disorderly, but the service was lovely and the wind was blowing and the music was mostly very good. it is clear that ryan and laura love each other very much and that is always so nice to see.
i think it was good for ross and i to get away from this for a few hours.
we got back to the hospital around 9 and stayed til about 10:30.
then we got a call from ralph around 6:30am. he was upset and thirsty and wanting us to come in. he doesn't have very realistic ideas about how long he is going to be in the hospital and the morphine is affecting his short term memory enough that he isn't remembering or keeping things in chronological order. it makes it very hard to talk to him about his condition sometimes. ross is doing really well.
he is going back into work tonight and i am going to stay with ralph this evening. i think that will be good for ross. we have way more to do than we have time to do it. we are still working on getting a police report and figuring out exactly what happened in the accident. it would be nice to know what is going to happen in terms of getting all this paid for. thankfully we have had some legal advice that i think will keep us from making any mistakes with the insurance.
ross's mom has gone back home and will be back down tuesday when ralph goes back into surgery.

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[cuddlejunkie1.livejournal.com]

Hugs to you and Ross and his father. John and I are sending our good thoughts your way.

[keisolo.livejournal.com]

Drunk drivers make me seethe.

[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

me too.
you've read about my break up with z, but likely not much about our relationship.
we had a big fight about the drinking and driving. he grew up calling beer "road soda." we went to a party and both got trashed. when we wanted to go home i was not sober enough to drive and wanted to wait. he convinced me he was sober enough. he absolutely wasn't. i had a big fight with him about it. then i had to have the same fight all over again with him the next morning because he didn't remember it. we never had problems with that again, but it is a very vivid memory for me.

[keisolo.livejournal.com]

That's crazed.
And I can understand it being a vivid memory, because I can actually imagine what that was like.

There is --always-- a designated whenever I go out and about to places that involve alcohol. Thankfully, me and mine, we don't really have the drive to go out and drink seriously. If I'm going to that, it will be at home, and not usually for "fun."

Bleagh.
"then we had the fight all over again in the morning because he couldn't remember it"
*twitches*
That would have driven me mad. And that phrase is going to stick with me for a while.

[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

it sticks in my head too, only it's kinda surreal because of how drunk/hungover i was. it is a powerful memory to me because in a lot of ways z was the first guy i dated that i "won" arguments with and had the feeling i really changed his mind....but also because his attitude came as such an appalling shock to me.