I first had to realize how destructive it could be, particuarly in my romantic relationshiops which were more tentative generally when I was younger.
Then I had to get over this kind of "extreme honesty is best" tendency I had inside myself. I was never into being just rude and hidding it under a veil of extreme honesty but as I said when I was upset with someone I let them know again...and again...and again until I had vented all of my frustration. I had to realize that true honesty doesn't work like that and doesn't involve dumping on people.
Once I came to those realizations I just had to learn to bite the bullet when I was upset and say it one time and then walk away. It wasn't easy to change 8 years ago and it still isn't easy now but like most good habits they get easier the more you do them.
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Date: 2009-01-09 09:06 pm (UTC)Then I had to get over this kind of "extreme honesty is best" tendency I had inside myself. I was never into being just rude and hidding it under a veil of extreme honesty but as I said when I was upset with someone I let them know again...and again...and again until I had vented all of my frustration. I had to realize that true honesty doesn't work like that and doesn't involve dumping on people.
Once I came to those realizations I just had to learn to bite the bullet when I was upset and say it one time and then walk away. It wasn't easy to change 8 years ago and it still isn't easy now but like most good habits they get easier the more you do them.
Sorry for the longwinded answer.