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[2eclipse]

the weeks are flying by this spring. it seems much faster than previous springs. maybe i just have more to do?
not sure.

i went to chicago this weekend. FINALLY.
and it was a good weekend to go, despite the rain/snow on the way down and the construction on the way back. i got to see my cousin landon and his new girlfriend...but more importantly i got to see my aunt carole, my uncle tom and my grandpa. and i got to help celebrate my grandpa's 92nd birthday.
that's not small potatoes.
it clearly meant a lot to him to have me there and i feel remiss that i have not gone to chicago more often since i have moved to mn...at the same time...a six hour drive (at least) is not something to sniff at and i have a very busy life. i do want to make sure not to let another year pass before i go again.
we also need to think about visiting ross's grandparents sometime soon. at 3 hours away, it is a bit easier to plan a day trip.
my grandpa and uncle tom are very smart men. i don't think they get a lot of appreciation for being as smart as they are.

on the way back i did some outlet shopping. i probably spent too much money, but with the reduced prices i'm still feeling good about it. i got ross some jeans and short sleeved shirts that he can wear to work...i got myself 2 skirts (one of which was only 5 dollars so i have NO guilt about that). i also got some kitchen stuff and a mother's day gift for sunmother that i'm super excited about.

i've realized that ross and i have different ideas about cleaning. he focuses more on surfaces and i focus more on clutter. he was disappointed that i didn't notice he cleaned the house while i was gone....but the thing is, that there was still clutter everywhere. and even though he had cleaned all the counters, there was stale bread from the night before on the counter that i had to waste because it was so hard. thinking again, i should have put it out for the birds. i feel super guilty for not noticing, and grateful that he did clean...but with the low lighting of evening and the same amount of clutter? it just doesn't make the impression i think he was hoping for. he didn't give me a hard time or anything. i just feel like i disappointed him.

i did not sleep well last night. my body was sore from being in the car so much this weekend. i think i will go in the hot tub and take a nap when i get home.

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[mirage897.livejournal.com]

Geovanny has caught me with that one too. "You did not notice I cleaned!" I feel awful, but he asks me 1 min after I walk in the door and don't have a chance to put my bag away, go to the bathroom, and actually notice.

[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

it's really amazing the things that make a difference when you live with someone...i just try not to set people up that way. i tell them i cleaned and wait for the praise instead of hoping they will notice. it feel less like i am creating "right answers" for them. i also get that "i love you feeling" more often.

[mirage897.livejournal.com]

Have you cohabitated before?

[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

yup.
my ex-fiance and i lived together for a little over a year.
my ex-boyfriend, z and i lived together for...six months?

i've co-habited more with friends. i lived with two other girls in PA for a year and had 3 different roommates in college. it's not the same as with an SO, but the same niceties make life together pleasant or unpleasant.

you?

[mirage897.livejournal.com]

Just once with my boyfriend Samm, about 10 years ago.

Although Geovanny has moved a lot of his clothes into my condo and spends about half his time there and does not contribute to the mortgage (or any other costs besides food) at all, I am not sure that qualifies as "living together" from my perspective though he definitely feels that we do live together. I guess that's because he's never experienced complete cohabitation with an SO before.

[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

it's different when you can't kick someone out when you want to be alone.
it's different when they don't have some other place to go.

[keisolo.livejournal.com]

I found this spring similar.