Rant

[2eclipse]

there is very little i hate more than fighting with people i love
but man did i get into a good one with a friend today.
because i offered information a few days ago without asking if she wanted it.
and because i said something flippant impulsively about a girl i don't like that involved one of her ex boyfriends today(when she was asking why i don't like her).
it was impulsive and i apologized.
but i am not mean, nasty or cruel. i just don't think like her.
and i DO NOT accept being brow beaten for 20 minutes because it shocked her or hurt her unintentionally.
as to "ask before you help me"? that i simply do not accept and am not interested in agreeing to.
it might be the wrong thing, and i will not do it again if it is wrong. but don't expect me to not help.
dammit.
not trying to help when i have a chance to is not being a good friend and i won't agree to it.

Comments

[plsurkity.livejournal.com]

*hugs* i'm sorry, hun. i feel like i'm always saying someting to piss someone else off, so i can understand how frustrating that feels.

[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

thanks. it's nice to know i'm not alone in the "open mouth, incert foot" department. :)

[ashoe.livejournal.com]

conflict with friends is so hard. *hugs* hopefully it will all get resolved soon, and in a way that keeps the friendship strong.

[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

i hope you are right.
the lady in question is one of my oldest friends and we have stuck by each other through a lot.
that being said, i'm still too angry to talk to her about it.

[sidhebear.livejournal.com]

I really don't see how you did anything wrong.

I don't take browbeating from "friends" lightly. I've stopped associating with a few people entirely because they seem prone to it whenever I don't do things PRECISELY like they want me to. I used to spend time with a few people who would go so far as to start throwing minor tantrums whenever you disagreed with their opinion. (instead of, say, using a simple "I really don't like it when you do that, can you try not to when we're together)

I also stopped hanging out with a few people because they prefer to whine about rather than solve their problems. I fully understand the need to complain or rant, especially when things are truly bad, but that's an entirely different thing.

Unfortunately this has made me into something of a hermit, as most of the time when people have get-togethers, there are a few people around with enough issues that it almost completely destroys my ability to enjoy myself, knowing that they will pester me or otherwise be fun-ruining drama llamas.

It's a pretty well-known fact that not everyone likes everybody else. Someone said something disparaging about someone you like? So what. Relax and let it pass.

I will never understand how some people can get so dramatically livid over such trivial things that they're willing to damage a friendship because of it.

[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

sigh...i did do something wrong.
i said something that hurt her feelings.
that being said, i think she was more interested in chewing me out than she was in listening to the explanation she asked for, or in hearing my apology.
and i don't think she has any clue how much she dumped on me.

[sidhebear.livejournal.com]

Did you hurt her feelings on purpose?

Maybe it's because I don't believe in holding my hurt feelings against someone unless I know for a fact they set out to cause insult or injury, but the way I see things, getting your feelings hurt is part of being alive. It sucks, and we try not to do it to the people we care about, but it's no excuse to blow up and chew someone out. It's simply a live-and-learn situation.

[2eclipse.livejournal.com]

no, i didn't do it on purpose.
and i don't understand why what i said hurt her. but i do understand that it did hurt her.
i agree with you. i don't deserve emotional bludgening for this. but i did do something wrong.