Rant

[2eclipse]

there is very little i hate more than fighting with people i love
but man did i get into a good one with a friend today.
because i offered information a few days ago without asking if she wanted it.
and because i said something flippant impulsively about a girl i don't like that involved one of her ex boyfriends today(when she was asking why i don't like her).
it was impulsive and i apologized.
but i am not mean, nasty or cruel. i just don't think like her.
and i DO NOT accept being brow beaten for 20 minutes because it shocked her or hurt her unintentionally.
as to "ask before you help me"? that i simply do not accept and am not interested in agreeing to.
it might be the wrong thing, and i will not do it again if it is wrong. but don't expect me to not help.
dammit.
not trying to help when i have a chance to is not being a good friend and i won't agree to it.

Comments

[plsurkity.livejournal.com]

*hugs* i'm sorry, hun. i feel like i'm always saying someting to piss someone else off, so i can understand how frustrating that feels.

[ashoe.livejournal.com]

conflict with friends is so hard. *hugs* hopefully it will all get resolved soon, and in a way that keeps the friendship strong.

[sidhebear.livejournal.com]

I really don't see how you did anything wrong.

I don't take browbeating from "friends" lightly. I've stopped associating with a few people entirely because they seem prone to it whenever I don't do things PRECISELY like they want me to. I used to spend time with a few people who would go so far as to start throwing minor tantrums whenever you disagreed with their opinion. (instead of, say, using a simple "I really don't like it when you do that, can you try not to when we're together)

I also stopped hanging out with a few people because they prefer to whine about rather than solve their problems. I fully understand the need to complain or rant, especially when things are truly bad, but that's an entirely different thing.

Unfortunately this has made me into something of a hermit, as most of the time when people have get-togethers, there are a few people around with enough issues that it almost completely destroys my ability to enjoy myself, knowing that they will pester me or otherwise be fun-ruining drama llamas.

It's a pretty well-known fact that not everyone likes everybody else. Someone said something disparaging about someone you like? So what. Relax and let it pass.

I will never understand how some people can get so dramatically livid over such trivial things that they're willing to damage a friendship because of it.