thank you so much for your sympathy.
i agree with you about the choices we make. the thing is that i live in the midwest now....and even as liberal as minnesota is, most people support the military. so i have to learn to deal with unexpected situations where stuff like that can happen - without warning. it just sucks. and i didn't want to ruin an act of appreciation for brian. he's a nice guy. i just don't agree with his choice. i can't be happy he decided to make it or thank him for doing it. that doesn't give me the right to make a spectacle and detract from what should be a nice thing for him. if we ever have a chance, maybe we will get to talk about our views....and that could be a lot more productive.
what ross confronted me on is my pride. i am angry for being asked to sit through something like that with no warning. and i totally have a right to my feelings....but the situation was not about me. my reaction didn't do anyone any good. not even myself. what i really need is a constructive way to handle my anger.